You’ve been seeing her for a while now. You are enjoying your time together and having fun. Now, it’s time to meet her friends. This is D-Day gentleman. A girlfriend’s friends are her lifeline. No one likes to admit it, but the opinions of her weigh heavily. Not to say your lady doesn’t have a mind of her own, she does. But she does care what her friends think so that means you need to make a good impression! Check out our dating guide for meeting her friends for the first time.
Be A Gentleman
Being a gentleman is not about being formal and stiff. It’s about paying attention to your lady and making sure her needs are met. You are not hanging around with your buddies, you are hanging out with the people that have probably heard every detail of your relationship thus far; so good behavior will not go unnoticed. If she isn’t watching, one of her friends is. If you’ve come this far, you most likely have behaving gentlemanly all along so this should not be difficult to carry out. Be yourself- just be sure to stay tuned into your lady.
Dress to Impress
This doesn’t mean dress to show off or dress to demonstrate how large your paycheck is. It means dress like you put a little effort into it. Clean, put together, and smelling good. No need for a Gucci suit, just shower, shave, and wear an outfit that doesn’t look like you just rolled out of bed or finished a basketball game with your buddies. It’s sad but true, you will be assessed head to toe.
Finesse not Flirting
You may know you’ve got game and she may not you’ve got game but demonstrating this to her friends is not appropriate. No one wants to see their new boyfriend flirting with her girlfriends. It’s a balance of flattery and attention to let them know you recognize their importance in your lady’s life. Respond to her friends. One of the best ways to get your girlfriend’s friends to like you, is to engage in a good conversation. If her friends ask you a question, don’t use one word answers, make a good conversation out of it.
Chivalry is not dead
Go ahead and take the lead a little. Pull our her chair, open doors, pay for a round of drinks if you can. The best way to get in with her friends is to show that you are sincere and will take care of their friend. A little doting on her will certainly go a long way. This is not to say you should go beyond what you are comfortable with, it just means her friends are looking to know they can trust you with her heart.
Be the resident expert
If you are the only guy in the crowd, be available to her friends is they want to talk about guys or their boyfriends etc. Be open and honest. They will appreciate your insight.
The Boy Friend BFF
If your lady’s best or close friend happens to be male – it could be a little tense at first. His protective vibe will be tuned very high. Because he’s a guy, he’ll be looking closely for “bad guy” behavior. It’s also very important that you don’t act jealous or threatened by this relationship. She’s here with you as her boyfriend, not him. Send him cues that you respect his relationship with her and that your intent is to care for her, not play her.
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